Rituals for Healthy Living

10 Steps to Mindfulness

2009-09-01T07:53:00.000-07:00

This article by Leo Babauta originally appeared at ThirdAge.

"Smile, breathe and go slowly." - Thich Nhat Hanh, Zen Buddhist monk

The idea of being mindful - being present, being more conscious of life as it happens - may seem contradictory to those who are used to sacrificing living for pursuing their goals ... but cultivating mindfulness will help you achieve your goals and enjoy life more.

Focusing on one task at a time, putting yourself fully into that task, is much more effective than multi-tasking. Focusing on one real goal at a time is also more effective. Focusing on what you're doing right now is highly effective. You're more productive when you're mindful.

But more importantly, being present is undoubtedly the only way to enjoy life to the fullest. By being mindful, you enjoy your food more, you enjoy friends and family more, you enjoy anything you're doing more. Anything. Even things you might think are drudgery or boring, such as housework, can be amazing if you are truly present. Try it - wash dishes or sweep or cook, and remain fully present. It takes practice, but it's incredible.

Life in the Present: A 10-Step Approach

1. Do one thing at a time. Single-task, don't multi-task. When you're pouring water, just pour water. When you're eating, just eat. When you're bathing, just bathe. Don't try to knock off a few tasks while eating or bathing or driving. Zen proverb: "When walking, walk. When eating, eat."

2. Do it slowly and deliberately. You can do one task at a time, but also rush that task. Instead, take your time, and move slowly. Make your actions deliberate, not rushed and random. It takes practice, but it helps you focus on the task.

3. Do less. If you do less, you can do those things more slowly, more completely and with more concentration. If you fill your day with tasks, you will be rushing from one thing to the next without stopping to think about what you do. But you're busy and you can't possibly do less, right? You can. I've done it, and so have many busy people. It's a matter of figuring out what's important, and letting go of what's not.

4. Put space between things. Related to the "Do less" rule, but it's a way of managing your schedule so that you always have time to complete each task. Don't schedule things close together - instead, leave room between things on your schedule. That gives you a more relaxed schedule, and leaves space in case one task takes longer than you planned.

5. Spend at least 5 minutes each day doing nothing. Just sit in silence. Become aware of your thoughts. Focus on your breathing. Notice the world around you. Become comfortable with the silence and stillness. It'll do you a world of good - and just takes 5 minutes!

6. Stop worrying about the future - focus on the present. Become more aware of your thinking - are you constantly worrying about the future? Learn to recognize when you're doing this, and then practice bringing yourself back to the present. Just focus on what you're doing, right now. Enjoy the present moment.

7. When you're talking to someone, be present. How many of us have spent time with someone but have been thinking about what we need to do in the future? Or thinking about what we want to say next, instead of really listening to that person? Instead, focus on being present, on really listening, on really enjoying your time with that person.

8. Eat slowly and savor your food. Food can be crammed down our throats in a rush, but where's the joy in that? Savor each bite, slowly, and really get the most out of your food. Interestingly, you'll eat less this way, and digest your food better as well.

9. Live slowly and savor your life. Just as you would savor your food by eating it more slowly, do everything this way - slow down and savor each and every moment. As I type this, for example, I have my 3-year-old daughter, Noelle, on my lap. She's just sitting here quietly, as the rain pours down in a hush outside. What a lovely moment. In fact, I'm going to take a few minutes off just to be with her now. Be right back. :)

10. Make cleaning and cooking become meditation. Cooking and cleaning are often seen as drudgery, but actually they are both great ways to practice mindfulness, and can be great rituals performed each day. If cooking and cleaning seem like boring chores to you, try doing them as a form of meditation. Put your entire mind into those tasks, concentrate, and do them slowly and completely. It could change your entire day (as well as leave you with a cleaner house).

Keep practicing. When you get frustrated, just take a deep breath. When you ask yourself, "What should I do now, Self?" The answer is, "keep practicing."

"When you drive around the city and come to a red light or a stop sign, you can just sit back and make use of these twenty or thirty seconds to relax - to breathe in, breathe out, and enjoy arriving in the present moment. There are many things like that we can do." - Thich Nhat Hanh

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Photo by patries71

Keep Your Love Relationship Alive, Hot and Fun!

2009-05-20T04:40:00.000-07:00

My book, “Love From Both Sides – A True Story of Soul Survival and Sacred Sexuality,” tells the story of my husband dying in my arms and “coming back” to chat. Now you may be wondering, and how does that relate to “Rituals for Healthy Living?”

It does, because during my own marriage, I insisted on creating lots of simple rituals. For instance, even though my husband and I were both busy, (Dan was a lawyer and I was a screenwriter), we tried to eat dinner together whenever we could. I cooked, set the table and lit candles. I insisted that we enjoy the small moments. I also insisted that we actually set aside time to “be together.” We made dates to sit on the couch, light a fire, share a glass of wine. We talked, sometimes we even read poetry. In those quiet moments, we remembered why we got married.

And if I was lucky? I got a massage from his wonderful, blacksmith hands, and then we’d make love. And taking time to make “love” a ritual, rather than something that happened at the end of an exhausting day, or worse… something that didn’t happen because we just had no energy left, kept our love alive and the sex hot!

And what was amazing? Even though Dan would sometimes make fun of my fussiness, after he died, he thanked me for insisting that we “honor” what we had together. So ladies? You’ll love my book, because I got an apology! And appreciation. Better late, than never, right?

Creating a sacred ritual of your own might help to keep your love relationship alive, hot and fun! And that in turn will help your own health. (And it might help you lose weight, because you need high levels serotonin to lose weight, and sex is an easy way to get it!) Also according to the new brain research, the more sex you have, the better your brain functions! That’s good news, yes?

So why not start thinking about fun, sexy rituals? According to a wonderful article in the New York Times Sunday Magazine, (1/25/09), what really excites women (and creates lots of beneficial chemicals in her brain) … is being desired by her lover. So maybe dance for your lover… become a goddess, and create a fun sexy ritual that will help you live a healthy life!

~ Stephanie Riseley
www.stephanieriseley.com

Stephanie is participating in the WOW! Women On Writing Blog Tour for her book Love From Both Sides – A True Story of Soul Survival and Sacred Sexuality

Transform Your Home into a Safe Haven

2009-05-01T09:48:00.000-07:00

In these times of economic upheaval, it’s tough to keep stress levels down. Most of us know some ways to keep stress in control; eat right, get plenty of sleep, exercise, meditate. But, did you know that making your home a safe haven can also be extremely beneficial?

The other day, Oprah had Peter Walsh, the organizational expert on her show. The segment was about clutter and how it’s the last thing we need in troubled times, as clutter makes us feel unsafe and anxious.

As an eco-friendly interior designer and Feng Shui expert, I have had the honor of helping many clients transform their lives by changing their homes. Living in a home filled with positive energy, with beauty, a home that is clean, organized and clutter-free makes the occupants feel safe. In safety comes freedom; freedom to be creative, to be motivated and energetic.

Best of all, it doesn’t need to cost a fortune to create your sanctuary. I recommend the following steps to create your safe haven:

Eliminate harmful products and replace them with eco-friendly ones. This step will improve your health and the health of the planet.

Clean your home well and get rid of clutter! This is huge and you can even make money by selling your stuff! A clean home is a healthier home and just feels good. Clutter, as mentioned previously, causes stress, confusion, depression and lethargy. Get rid of anything you don’t love, need or have used for over a year.

Clear your home of negative energy with smudging or dowsing. See a previous post of mine on smudging.

Get rid of processed food and eat wholesome and organic.

Allow energy, or chi, to flow unobstructed throughout your home. Don’t crowd furniture.

Use color to your benefit. The cool colors, like blue and purple, are great in the bedroom because they lower blood pressure and help us relax. Social rooms, like the kitchen and living room, benefit from the warm, expansive colors like yellow, red, and orange.

Place objects in the Bagua to attract whatever you want—love, money, fame.

Balance each room with all four elements—earth, air, fire, and water.

Houseplants add great energy and suck up indoor air pollution.

Treat yourself to flowers every week—simply my favorite way to make my home feel like a sanctuary.

Learn to decorate with confidence! Don’t worry about what’s in style—decorate to please your unique style.

One last suggestion--have fun while doing this! Transforming your home into a sanctuary is really enjoyable—something we all need a bit of now.

~ Norma Lehmeier Hartie
photo from here

Shower People with Encouraging Words, Thoughts and Love!

2009-03-08T11:26:00.000-07:00

I am going to start to send letters, post cards and small things through the mail to my grandmother. One each day. She has not been feeling well lately and I thought this would cheer her up a bit. I am thinking of doing it with other people as well so each week I will pick a new person to shower with encouraging words, thoughts, and love!

~ onefish2fish

Photo by Mr. T in DC

Your Crowning Glory - Go Within – Meditation

2009-03-01T10:13:00.000-08:00

A man goes into the Himalayan Mountains to find enlightenment. He travels for many miles to find an empty cave to live a spiritual life. He settles in to meditate, study ancient spiritual scripture and do his yoga to keep limber. For many, many years he practices all day and night, until one day – poof! – He’s enlightened.

So as the man emerges from the cave to greet the world, a bird flies over and shits on his head. He immediately becomes enraged and starts cursing at the bird.

What’s the moral of the story? It’s easy to be spiritual in a cave high atop a mountain and far away from everything that could potentially disturb your peace; the real task is to keep peace amidst the challenges we face in the world.

My original attraction to Yoga wasn’t a quest for inner peace or a desire to levitate over Manhattan; I came to Yoga purely for the physical practice. Over time I started exploring all the facets of Yoga and discovered that the physical practice was actually for the “soul” purpose of meditating more easefully and peacefully. Now that was quite an eye-opener for me because no one had explained that when I’d originally signed up. I’d been tricked into thinking I was doing something good for my body, unaware that I was simultaneously doing something good for my mind and soul.

The first few times I tried meditating I made every effort to sit quietly, yet nothing happened. Well, I shouldn’t say nothing happened. My mind ran amuck. It traveled from one thought to another, without taking a break. I felt frustrated and limited. Why couldn’t I just keep quiet for one moment? I was sure everyone else in the room had it down while I was the ONLY one still thinking. But after sharing my experience with others, I realized even the most experienced and self-actualizing people also have days when their minds run seemingly out of control.

And what was the purpose of all this quiet time anyway? After all, I hadn’t had it since kindergarten, and even then I wasn’t very good at it, having been dubbed a social butterfly by my teacher on my report card. But everything I read—spiritual, self-help and even business—talked about the benefits of meditation, so I kept exploring.

Introducing a meditation ritual takes practice; the more you practice the easier it gets. Think back to when you may have learned to ride a bike. You probably fell down a few times and skinned you knees before you got it right. When you started cooking, you probably burned a few things, including you hands. So with regular practice, mediation can get easier.

I believe the only evidence you’ll ever need to prove that mediation works is to try it yourself. Become your own scientist and experiment with different techniques, notice how you feel, draw your own conclusions and experience the results.

Starting my own ritual of meditating was not easy for me; I fell off the Yogic wagon several times. Eventually I found that the best time for me to meditate was when I woke up in the morning. When I tried earnestly to get up with the sun, inevitably I felt tired in the middle of my day. As much as I wanted to get up at the crack of dawn, by the third day I couldn’t keep it up and stopped meditating completely. I discovered that meditating when I got up, regardless of the time, was much more effective.

Upon waking, I cleanse and then meditate before doing anything else. This works best for me. I created a ritual, which became an integral part of my daily routine. If for some reason, I miss my morning meditation, it now feels like I didn’t brush my teeth. Introducing a daily ritual into your routine takes about thirty days of repetition. Find the rhythm that suits you and your life. If you’re not a morning person, meditate in the afternoon; if you are a night owl, take advantage of the stillness of the dark. Start with just five minutes every day and let it grow from there. After you have created a daily habit of meditating; sit for ten minutes, then twenty and so on. If you start your practice with the goal to meditate for an hour and then fail, you’ll get aggravated and give up.

You can create a special, sacred space for your meditations, but remember it’s not completely necessary. No matter where you are, you can always go within. If you like, find a place that is clutter-free and quiet. You can use a special pillow and any accoutrements that feel good to you. I know a woman who has seven children; she meditates in her closet. Keep in mind as you practice more meditation it will get easier for you to just go inside, even in the midst of chaos. Over time you won’t even need any special tools to provide the answers you are seeking. There is no right or wrong in meditation, no pass or fail. All you have to do is try and you will reap the benefits.

Meditation is the key to living royally. When you quiet your mind you free yourself from the chatter, enabling you to see your self-worth clearly and pave the way to a more easeful, peaceful life.

Stacey Joiner
Taken from the teachings in You Deserve The Royal Treatment – A Woman’s Guide to Living Royally.

Blessing Others: A Practice for Opening the Heart

2009-02-13T06:32:00.001-08:00

“Blessings” is the sign-off I use in my e-mail correspondence. It was a conscious choice to do so. I was at a stage in my life when “Sincerely” was just too cold; “Love” a bit too warm for a general farewell, especially to business associates. I had to find the one that fit me the best. “Blessings” felt just right.

E-mail is but one of the many opportunities we have to bless others. Throughout the day, we have many opportunities to offer them well wishes, both verbally and non-verbally.

It’s easy to bless the people we love, harder to confer a blessing of peace and happiness upon a prickly other. More challenging yet, if someone has hurt or betrayed us. I’ve often viewed the presence of difficult others in my life as an opportunity for me to love more; to move from hardheartedness to openheartedness, from expectation-holding to letting go, from grudge-holding to forgiveness. Blessing, in fact, may be one of the most powerful practices we can use to keep our hearts open to one another.

Go Undercover

Without them even being aware of it, we can bestow our goodwill on another. Consider the people we encounter in the course of our day, people who may appear to be “invisible.” The woman who scans our groceries at the checkout counter, the groundskeeper at our condo, the janitor at our children’s school, countless others, too many to name. What if we sent a silent, “Bless You,” as we passed them by? “Bless you for your hard work.” “Bless you for doing your job so I can live more comfortably.” “Bless you for caring for my children.” And so on.

Send a “Body Blessing”

With folks to whom we are more intimately connected, we might employ another form of blessing—a “Body Blessing.” Some of us are reluctant huggers. We give quick hugs, embracing someone out of formality or expectation with no real warmth to be found in it. What if we took this body-to-body opportunity to hug a blessing into them? As we press our cheek or shoulder to theirs, we can silently offer them a blessing of health, inner peace, or joy.

Just Say It

Sometimes the direct path of blessing is best. We need to speak our blessing aloud, face-to-face. This is difficult if we have been raised in stoic families who frown upon such outward expressions. Or, perhaps we are shy about speaking our blessings to another for fear of their response. In any case, a verbal expression of well-being or gratitude may be precisely what is needed to deepen our relationship. A whisper in the ear works wonders; an eye-to-eye confession is even better. Engaging in this way brings boundless rewards, to both the giver and the receiver.

The practice of blessing is good for what ails us. It invites us to express gratitude for the presence of others in our lives. It reminds us to see and affirm their basic goodness. Blessing is so very simple. Two little words, sincerely spoken, can change how we perceive our world. “Bless you” is all it takes ...

© Janice Lynne Lundy, 2009

Janice Lynne Lundy is participating in the WOW! Women on Writing Blog Tour, promoting her book, Your Truest Self.

Threemile Idaho

2009-01-09T20:53:00.000-08:00

I have many rituals in my practice, but the most powerful healing ritual for me is what I call a "three-mile Idaho." I live about 1¼ miles from the Idaho border just east of Palouse, WA, in a very lovely setting along the North Fork of the Palouse River. A gravel road heads east from here along the river, and over the years of living here I have discovered how transformative that walk can be. If I go another ¼ mile past the border, the river valley opens up to an expansive plain where Palootspu and Nez Perce would camp in summer before Europeans came to this country, and right at that point is a portal of sorts with Ponderosa pines on either side of the road, framing the view of the valley. Walking to that point and back is almost precisely three miles.

When I have been miserable, stressed-out, unable to see how to go forward from an impossible situation, I have found that I can hold my crisis in my heart-mind and walk out the door, down that road. The walk is long enough that I can go through every voice inside me, and I begin to sort through them, watching the unconstructive voices fall away as I become invigorated with the exercise, breathing deep into my center. The unresolvable struggles transform somehow to become understandable, manageable. Often there are moments of absolute clarity. Over the years, various "stations" along the walk have become associated in my mind with particular transcendent insights, and if I linger at those points I seem to be able to draw on those experiences in addressing whatever I am carrying at the moment. When I reach the portal, I greet the trees on either side and step through. If the moon is out, or the Milky Way, I align somehow with them, breathing and stretching. I offer whatever I have to the spirit of that place.

Then I turn towards home, and every time it feels as though a huge weight has been lifted from my being. The return trip integrates the transformation into the world I left at home, with everything in perspective.

Of course, I also go on three-miles to entertain my dog and collect native plant seeds, but the ceremonial three-mile Idaho is in an entirely different league. I believe it has saved my sanity on several occasions.

Paul Ely Smith
www.palouserivermusic.com

Tossing Snowballs into the River - Winter Solstice Ritual

2008-12-17T07:57:00.000-08:00

I walk through snowy woods to a bend in the river, hidden from view by the trees and a small slope. The short day's light is beginning to fade, but a nearly full moon hangs above the naked trees upriver. I've followed a deer path and now stand at river's edge in two feet of snow. I have found a sacred place to savor and celebrate winter's solstice.

Breathing, listening to the joyful sound of shallow water rushing over riverstone. I hear my heart beating and soften into a quiet stance. Who am I?, I ask the river. Who do you want me to be? The sound of my beating heart is a solid rhythm for the river's bright melody of gentle waves and currents. The wonder held in this space suddenly shocks time into hibernation and I stand dissolved and free of name and contraction.

Moonlight pours from my face and the low hanging branches and round river stone. Our bones reach deep into the snowy bank, absent of leaf and bird. The river whispers our true name, speaking her fluid language of source intelligence, a universe of bubbling life. This, this again, she sings, now and now, this unending flow. We float upon gravity's grace in an effortless flow of being, tumbling as beauty's truth, rising as creative essence serving love's expansive reach.

My cold toes bring me back to the riverbank, Thomas shivering in the near darkness. I make snowballs and toss my dissolving fears into the rapids. Obstacles of arrogance and laziness and judgments and worries and clutchings are tossed one by one into the river until the sharp pain of my frozen fingers says Enough! I stand silent in the polar essence of the solstice and devote my fullest energy and awareness to being an embodied action of presence expressing the unity of planet, sun, life, motion and soul to all resonant beings sharing this evolving field of emergent life.

december 21, 2007
5:55 pm

Thomas Arthur
awakeningspace.net

Ripples photo by brentdanley
Moonrise photo by James Jordan

Private Time with Dad

2008-12-06T20:50:00.000-08:00

My son Isaac taught me a form of ritual. When he was about six I asked him, what do you think you should do when life feels complicated? Without any hesitation he said, “sit down, think, ask for help.” It is a process for both personal and communal learning that has taught me much.

Yesterday, I walked with my daughter, now 13. It was a “private walk with Dad.” We are vacationing, “holidaying” in Canada with grandparents and cousins. I wanted to make sure we had some time. My daughter so much relished the time. Her life, questions, stories were pouring out of her. We walked among the trees of this little town, Fairmont BC. We went to a favorite place, by a stream. I picked up two small stones. At the end of our walk I gave her one and called it a “truth stone.” It was a simple invitation, a simple symbol to invite our truth telling and witnessing with each other, whenever needed. It was one of those moments when my daughter and I just clicked in a great mix of laughter and seriousness.

Tenneson Woolf
tenneson@berkana.org

Sitting and Thinking photo by funkypancake
This is a Stone by Julio Martinez

How Lucky I am to Be Alive

2008-11-08T09:40:00.000-08:00

Putting one's hand in a bucket of ice or just holding an ice cube helps with being stressed out. It immediately brings you back into your body. And it makes me think about warmer things. On a similar note, I often go to my window in the morning as I'm setting my intention for the day, thanking the creator for this precious human life. Sometimes I put my hand on the window and notice it's coolness. Then look out to see the sun bringing light into the day. Both of these actions remind me of humanness and how lucky I am to be alive. They help me to remember my connection to self and others and to our planet. My breath deepens and my body relaxes.

~Anonymous

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The Dog Leads the Rituals

2008-11-08T09:37:00.000-08:00

The only healthy rituals that I have are the ones that I'm trying to make into habits--the weekly workouts in the mornings.

Oddly enough, Shadow has enforced the biggest rituals--an evening walk and some kind of morning exercise. He likes for us to get up in the morning no later than 7 a.m., and at night, around 10:00 p.m., he takes a deep breath, scratches the floor underneath him, and throws himself down with a big sigh (his way of saying that he's ready to go to bed, even if we are not). So maybe getting a dog has been one of the healthiest things we have done, and he is the enforcer of our main rituals!

Susan Wyche

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Listen to Birds, Insects, my Thoughts

2008-10-03T09:48:00.000-07:00

Before mom passed away:
Called her every day
Told her I love her every day

What I always do:
Wash my face and brush my teeth before bedtime
Take my two pills before bedtime

What I strive to do:
Listen to birds in the morning
Listen to insects at night
Listen to my thoughts when I wake up
Look out the bedroom window at the roses blooming
Collect water from the shower and water plants outside
Recycle
Be conscious of water use
Have reading glasses in hand

What I do now:
Listen to Paul sleep
Check on Paul if he is napping in the daytime
Listen to how energy is flowing through my body

What I always have done:
Create
Watch
Think a lot
Touch different textures
Love music
Find beauty in everything

I think this is a lot, but I feel that it describes a lot of rituals in an overview that are important. I feel like I have just sent an outline of my life.

Cathryn P. Cooper
cathryn.artist@gmail.com
photo by Cathryn P. Cooper

Travel as a Mindfulness Practice

2008-09-28T08:41:00.000-07:00

I am heading out on a mammoth trip today. My itinerary looks like this:Monday – drive to Port MacNeil on northern Vancouver Island

Tuesday – Facilitate community to community forum with North Island First Nations and local governments. When finished, drive back to Campbell River and jump on a plane. Fly to Vancouver, then Toronto then Ottawa.

Wednesday – Facilitate workshop in Ottawa with the Canadian Union of Public Employees.

Friday – Finish workshop and return to Vancouver

Saturday – Facilitate one day Open Space for the Ministry of the Attorney-General Family Court Committee. Return home Saturday night.

This is a little unusual for me, in that I usually don’t do a red eye flight across two thirds of the country. I know I will be tired, and I know I need to stay focused on these three jobs and what I am doing. And believe it or not, I woke up this morning deliciously anticipating the journey ahead.

For me, this kind of travel and work is a mindfulness practice. I use these journeys to be very mindful about where I am and what I am doing. Often, when I am en route, I don’t speak to other people at all, preferring to travel in silence, reading, listening to music or podcasts or writing. If I do speak it is only to be polite, get where I am going or ask for help. As a silent meditation I find travelling in this way to be incredible practice, and it brings me to the work I have to do with as much presence as I can. In general I don’t check my emails when I am on the road, preferring instead to give as much attention as I can to the work I have at hand. Fortunately I have my partner Caitlin Frost is back in our office, answering phone calls, sorting logistics with clients and flagging important emails for me. This is an incredible gift as it allows me to be on the road, safe, undivided and present for my clients.

Seeing travel as a meditation retreat for me shows up in many ways. For example I have a few practices I cultivate on a daily basis and being mindful means focusing on doing them in unfamiliar places with limited access to tools. I try to exercise everyday, and have developed several “hotel room” workouts, that can be done between queen sized beds in small roadside motels. These are 20-30 workouts focusing on strength, flexibility and cardio fitness. Of course, access to a weight room or a gym makes this easier, but it isn’t necessary. Sometimes, if I’m driving and I get tired I pull over and go through a circuit of push ups, sit ups and squats or I run through some of my taekwondo patterns to get the blood flowing and energize my body.

Eating is another area that becomes a mindfulness practice. Because it’s so hard to find good and healthy food on the road, I think carefully about everything that enters my body. Instead of defaulting to restaurants, I’ll often stop in to grocery stores and stock up on fresh fruit and vegetables, pre-mixed salads or healthy instant soups that can be made with only boiling water. Travelling does not have to mean bread, oil and potatoes.

Travelling offers several benefits to the emotional side of mindfulness practice as well. It is a rare trip when everything goes according to plan and delays, changes and inconveniences force me to be mindful of my emotional states and to practice equanimity with people, machines and other pieces of reality that are out of my control. Some of my favourite trips have been those which have gone horribly wrong, with missed connections, bad weather and few options. If I come through those with a minimum of anxiety, the journey and the return home seems sweeter for it.

Travel can be stressful because it breaks our routines and rhythms. We need to become completely dependent on our own resources, carrying everything we need with us. It forces us to make careful choices about what we take and what we do on the road. We have to live differently than we do at home and that forces us to pay more attention to what we are doing. THAT alone is a gift, for if we can use the opportunity to focus ourselves and work with our mind, we can not only travel better, but understand ourselves better as well.

Slow down, be careful and attentive and see what you learn about yourself.

~ Chris Corrigan
Originally Posted at Parking Lot

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Minimum Daily Dance Requirement - One Whole Song Every Day

2008-09-11T09:16:00.000-07:00

Two of my favorite daily self-care rituals:
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1. My "MDDR" (Minimum Daily Dance Requirement). This is my tongue-in-cheek version of the "MDR" acronym, which stood for Minimum Daily Requirement in regard to vitamins and minerals). My MDDR is to dance at least one whole song every day. Just to be sure it always happens, I do it first thing upon rising in the morning. I love it!

2. "Three Nice Things." A while ago, I read about an experiment where participants (who were challenged by depression) took time every night to write down three nice things that happened to them that day. They also wrote about why they thought those things happened. The study found that this writing exercise markedly decreased symptoms of depression, and even after the participants had stopped doing the writing exercise for three months, the positive change in their mood still remained.

I thought that sounded like a great idea, depression or not. However, I didn't want the pressure of having to analyze the nice things that happened, and it felt like work to have to write anything down before bed. So I came up with my own version of the exercise.

Every night before I go to sleep, I think about three nice things that happened that day. Most days I remember many more than three things, but three is my minimum. Next, I think about three (or more) things I can do tomorrow that I know will make me and/or someone else feel good (the latter having the bonus of making me feel good as well, of course).

When I wake up the next morning, I don't let myself get out of bed until I do the ritual again. That is, I review the previous day and remember three nice things that happened. These can be the same things I thought about the night before, or different ones. After that, I think about three things I can do that day to make the day nicer (again, these can be the same things I thought about the night before, or different ones).

After doing the "Three Nice Things" ritual for while, I got hooked, because it's a sweet thing to do before and after dreamtime. I also noticed that it seems to help me go to sleep, which is a bonus. And it's a double bonus to drift off to sleep every night while thinking about nice things!

Over time, I've noticed that this simple ritual seems to be changing my ongoing daily thought patterns at deep-brain levels without further "efforting" on my part. In particular, I've noticed that my overall sense of gratitude and my focus on what's working (as opposed to what's not working) have both greatly increased. I mean, I've always been a grateful sort of person since I was a child. Even so, I strive to be even more appreciative of everyone and everything--and one of my goals in life is to experience gratitude as a constant state.

"Three Nice Things" has helped me tremendously in this regard, so I've made it part of my daily (and nightly) rituals for self-care. I don't know if my version of this exercise would have the same effect on another person's focus and "gratitude barometer," but who knows? Maybe the ripple effects for someone else might transport them to other equally lovely dimensions of life!

Cat Saunders
www.drcat.org

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Thank You For the Wonderful People in my Life

2008-09-02T21:02:00.000-07:00

The thought just came into my mind about a ritual of mine. Thanking whatever spiritual beings that surround me for the wonderful people in my life!!!!!!!! I feel that I should never take them for granted and should let my spirits know!!!!!!!!

Another ritual........I do many things that incorporate the number 8.

~Anonymous

I Have Rituals and They Change in the Details of How They Unfold

2008-09-01T14:15:00.000-07:00

I have rituals and they change in the details of how they unfold.

I have a morning practice that I do at least 5 or 6 days a week. The goal of the practice is to have some time for moving my body, some time for meditation and some time for written reflection. Having said that, the details depend on the time available. Some mornings I have only 30 minutes and then it gets pretty compressed. Mostly, I like to have an hour. An hour and a half is delightful (although more and more rare). My morning movement varies – mostly yoga stretches. I try to do at least a few minutes of some kind of stretching.

Recently, I was doing the Presence Process by Michael Brown. Doing that work, my meditation takes 30 minutes to an hour which pretty much squeezes out the other aspects. It also has added an evening meditation.

Other rituals – I call my Uncle Walt weekly. He is 91 and living alone in his own house. Actually, I have a ritual about calling all of my family – so I am in touch at least every couple of weeks.

I do intensive exercise – preferably NIA or yoga 2-3 times a week and try to do some exercise daily. Lots of walking.

I now have a ritual of taking an extensive set of supplements in the morning – but that is new in the last six months.

I mix my Alexander restorative rest and a series of healing visualizations.

So, as you can surmise, this all rises and falls depending on the time available. Some days it is very compressed and not all of it happens and occasionally I actually do it all!

Karma Ruder
kruder@ethicalleadership.org

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15 Minutes to "Get Present" With the Day and With Myself

2008-08-24T09:19:00.000-07:00

My "ritual" is having a morning cup of tea when I wake up--no matter where I am--I take my own little tea water hot rod, my favorite tea bags, and a little cup....and even if I'm in a hotel, I take 15 minutes or so to just "get present" with the day and with myself.

When we're out in Tomales I sit in front of the bird feeder and drink my tea quietly and watch the social life of birds--with no thoughts, no agenda, just watching life unfold before my eyes and feeling a part of it all.

Juanita Brown
The World Cafe

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Aikido Training Twice a Week

2008-08-24T09:16:00.000-07:00

Well, my ritual (which I'm not always able to keep up with), is probably going to Aikido training twice a week.
Wonderful thing!

~Anonymous

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One Good Thing for Someone Else Every Day

2008-08-21T20:45:00.000-07:00

I have two steady rituals: the first is that I begin every day with meditation and prayer for good health, loving family and friends, and opportunities to do good work. I also try to do at least one good thing for someone else every day. The latter began when I was thinking about giving up something for Lent, as I have always done. I thought that that was not doing anything positive for the world, so determined that it would be better to do something good for someone else every day--and then not just for Lent but throughout the year.

Dee Dickinson
www.newhorizons.org

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I Take Breaks to Breathe, Rest My Mind and Eyes

2008-08-20T11:50:00.000-07:00

Waking and sitting on the porch before I start my day, feeling the air, listening to birds, noticing how I am feeling, setting intention, perhaps drinking a lovely cup of coffee as I awaken to the day.

This continues throughout my day as I am on computer a lot, I take breaks to breathe, rest my mind and eyes, check in....even for just a small moment. Creativity cannot sustain itself well, I have found, without some space...

And of course caring for my dog brings a lot.....walking him a few times a day, I notice how it feels to be in a body that day....brushing him patiently brings me to the present.....giving things to him that makes him happy.

Food is also a great time to feel gratitude and commune with life energy, whether it be cooking, eating, growing food. And any exploration in/with for that matter can bring this opportunity for me.

Finally, most reliably in my day, I have found I need a certain amount of time alone, to do nothing at all. All kinds of things unwind in this space for me.

~ Anonymous

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Yoga, yoga, yoga

2008-08-20T11:46:00.000-07:00

yoga, yoga, yoga…everyday :-)

~ Anonymous

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Rituals in the Classroom

2008-08-14T14:54:00.000-07:00

We sing a song called “The Earth is Good to Me” before eating dinner
I usually eat something small but yummy while I read right before bed
In the classroom, for group well-being we meet at the start of the day to greet and start our work together
At the end of yoga we think about our intentions for the day at the end of meditation.
Saying namaste, thanking each other for practicing yoga together.

A frequent wish of mine over the years is that as a [school] community we would have some rituals together for the well-being of the community, like regular assemblies, singing the school song, etc. An updated version of the old rituals of the pledge of allegiance or patriotic songs. We were trying to think- when do we see ourselves (literally) as a whole community at our school?

~ Anonymous

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Gratitude, Prayer, Meditation and Life Affirming Actions

2008-08-14T14:33:00.000-07:00

One of the great truth that has changed and continues to change me came from my study with Dr. Angeles Arrien in Calif. She taught me that all traditional people believe that in order to live in a sacred blessing way, you need to have these three practices in your life daily. I call them rituals and express my original medicine with them. They are the practice of GRATITUDE which I take the time once or twice a day as I feed my horses to look around and say thank you for all the wonders etc in my life. The practice of PRAYER and MEDITATION is the second ritual and that is something that is evolving daily with my spiritual and soul growth. The third is to practice LIFE AFFIRMING ACTIONS everyday. This is the fun one as it reflects the first two. As Rumi says, "Let the beauty of what you love, be what you do"....or something like that!!

~ Anonymous

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I Thank God for My Life

2008-08-07T08:51:00.000-07:00

I think I have quite a few rituals that I may or may not do each day, however what is probably most important to me is immediately upon waking in the morning I thank God (whatever that means) for my life, for my being, for guiding me, directing me, opening my heart, and bringing me to a greater sense of love and peace. As I am going to sleep at night I thank God for the day, whether it has been a challenge or fun, naming things that happened, seeing my lessons and challenges, and joys and blessings.

Marilyn Robinson

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Saying Goodnight to Our Neighbors

2008-08-05T20:50:00.000-07:00

I'm sitting on a boring conference call and started thinking about rituals. I actually have fought myself to have less rituals, as most of mine were "OCD-like" and really bothered me. For example, I used to always make sure I started walking with my left foot and stopped with my right, so I would take an even number of
steps. I'd end up bumping into things and going near bonkers when I had to stop, trying to remember what foot took the last step. That was a bad ritual, though it's funny in hind sight.

We have some rituals with Ona that are pretty cool, though. Every night at bed time we close the blinds, then the drapes while saying good night to our neighbors. I wish I could say it's because we want her to have a sense of community, but it's really just because windows are her favorite toy. We open them up and say "good morning" to the neighbors in the morning.

I'm drawing blanks on other things we do now, though. If you want to look into behaviors people get into, there are probably few groups of people with more bizarre rituals than baseball players. They are widely thought of as highly superstitious, and players tend to get into rituals with things such as patterns of adjusting between pitches, jumping over the foul line when going onto/off the field, drawing symbols in the dirt with their bats/feet, and on and on. I never strung together a great enough run to have one common ritual, so I can't say I was a member of that club, but I love learning what the pros do to calm their nerves.

If you want to read more, this article has some good tales of superstitions, some are rituals, some are just superstitions. The biggest ritual guy I can think of is a player named Nomar Garciaparra. Between pitches, he goes through a very elaborate deal where he adjusts his gloves, taps his toes, adjusts the gloves, taps the toes, taps the helmet, and so on.

Eric Muntz
Projectminer.com
ericmuntz@gmail.com

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Journaling and then Meditating

2008-08-04T21:25:00.000-07:00

For about 10 years I have been journaling every day. It is about a page typewritten. Then I meditate/contemplate for about 20 minutes. This order seems to work better for me than the other way around--perhaps I get the junk out on the page and then can be clearer in the m/c.

For about 6 months I have been attending a Friends meeting, and that is a welcoming and welcome time each First Day, as Quakers say. Now it is interesting to call all this ritual, the Quakers being so plain and not liking the word! But then again, some people think open space has no structure....

I also like to read a lot--mainly spiritual type reading. Just finished John Shelby Spong's A New Christianity For a New World; before that it was Walter Brueggemann's The Prophetic Imagination. These both excited me and reverberated through my life. Of course, Lawrence Thornton's Imagining Argentina, and Peter Block's Community are spiritual books to me!

The big ritual I am working on now is to invite without ceasing.

You may also want to look at www.FootprintsintheWind.com and read the article "12@21" (right hand column) for a romantic kind of ritual.

Doug Germann

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Dinner at the Playground

2008-08-03T07:19:00.000-07:00

We eat breakfast together and water the garden in the backyard.

Feeding our hummingbirds.

We hang out our sheets and blankets in the summer and revel in climbing into bed at night.

We go to bed in the evening at a set time during school months and if they are reading a good book no bedtime applies.

Listening to Woodie Guthrie Children's songs while puttering around the house.

Eating Pizza and watching a Baseball Game together at home.

Dinner at the playground. Parents sneak a bottle of Sangiovese.

~Bridge

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So That My Body and Soul Get Juice

2008-08-02T07:25:00.000-07:00

The 3 main rituals I have that are scheduled-type things are...

I cuddle with my dogs each morning right when I roll out of bed. I have a meditation space off our bedroom and I go sit on a cushion in there and they join me for belly rubbin and lovin. It's a sweet, gentle, delightful way to start my day. Some days it only lasts 30 seconds and some times we go on for a while.
I go to a yoga class 2-3 times a week. I try and pick classes that have a mind/body/spiritual component so that my body and soul get juice.
Every Thursday night my girlfriends and I get together. We alternate who makes the plans so sometimes it's a yoga class, happy hour, dinner, movies... having that close knit community of women is incredibly nourishing.

Other things that I do to fill me up daily are: laugh, dance, hug and kiss my beautiful mate, and listen to music.

~Cyn

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Picking Categories and Pictures for the Rituals

2008-07-31T07:56:00.000-07:00

Do you have thoughts or ideas about the categories that label each ritual? Any other categories that should be included? Have you seen a photo that would be great for illustrating one of the rituals shared here? I've found the practice of reading, posting, picking labels, and finding a picture for each of these rituals to be an interesting practice. If you've got ideas, let me know what other labels or pictures you think would be a good fit.

I Deliberately Slow Down My Movements

2008-07-31T07:12:00.000-07:00

As soon as I get up each morning I do 10 minutes of whole body stretching flat on my back on the floor to get back into my physical being - if I don't I feel at odds with the world all day, so I almost never miss (unless I'm on a plane, when I still do some limited stretching!)

After that I deliberately slow down my movements by at least half, even or especially if I'm late and in a hurry. That way I gradually tune into the world around me, eg the birds in the trees, the clouds, the plants growing all around me, rather than just into my preoccupations.

I always try to each lunch alone, as I work with people - the solitude is an oasis of soothing peace in the middle of the day - and if I see someone passing who I know I take care to hide my face, knowing I can spend time with THEM later!

Finally, I walk my dog Steve in the evening in the leafy lanes and fields - again I slow down and just allow whatever wants to come to my attention to do so. Steve seems to do the same, and we make good company for each other.....

David Duffy

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Casual, Relaxed, Familiar and Energizing - As Rituals Should Be!

2008-07-27T18:41:00.000-07:00

I have few rituals but this is one of my favorites. My girlfriend and I have a mutual friend who lives in another country. Every time she comes to Copenhagen we have a ritual. We go to the same restaurant, always eat the same thing, always have the same dessert (banana splits) and just enjoy each other's company. It's casual, relaxed, familiar and energizing - as rituals should be.

~Anonymous

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I Am Nothing If Not A Person fo Ritual

2008-07-27T18:31:00.000-07:00

I am nothing if not a person of rituals. Some of them include morning walks with my dog (now dogs) followed by lots of stretching, enjoying my coffee almost like a religion, praying to God when I go to sleep (for some reason I always remember to do this when I'm traveling but not always at home), try to go to church regularly on Sundays, eating a big breakfast in my room when I'm traveling (always the same thing, too). But you get my drift. I need fewer rituals in my life, not more!

~Becky

Wow!! I Do Take Care of Myself With My Rituals

2008-07-25T12:19:00.000-07:00

For me… I do a meditation/clearing/intention time each morning consisting of energetically clearing out my house, my office space, and my boyfriend’s house, then putting in white light of the highest vibration into each of these spaces where I spend the most time. Then I call in all helpers/angels etc to assist me for the day (in general and in specific if I am working on something), and then I do the same for my daughter. Sometimes I do it at my altar, other times in bed before I get up.

Currently for the next 2 weeks I am cleaning out my energy field 2x/day after a shaman session I had recently.

I work out 3-4x/week…hike, swim, cardio, weights…

Before I go to sleep I go through the day and get into a space of gratitude for all the things that I enjoyed throughout the day. Occasionally I’ll get to write in my journal.

I have a spiritual book club that I attend 2x/month. I belong to a women’s prosperity circle that we talk 1x/week and do emails during the week to keep our vibration high!

I get Acupuncture (1-2x/month), Massage, Anat Baniel, Chiropractic etc as needed.

WOW!! I do take good care of myself with my rituals!

W.W
Source for Wellbeing

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Sharing New Things Each of Us Learned

2008-07-23T11:05:00.000-07:00

Give thanks before every meal, joining hands with all gathered around the table

Bless the car and everyone in it as I begin driving

Bless our daughter, Adonia, each night, cuddle and give thanks for the day and look back at what went well and what could work better another day

Share with each other at supper time what new things each of us learned during that day

Pray/meditate each night before going to sleep, even if just for a short while

Touch in with my husband each evening to get a sense of the next day's flow and how we will weave each of our schedules and rhythms together in mutual support and awareness

Do a cleanse in the spring time -- which includes a yearly wildcrafting of nettles

That's a start for now... wanted to write some down right away before your email scoots too far up in my inbox (another "ritual" I am trying to enact more and more ;-))

~anonymous

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Paying Attention to Relationships and Cats

2008-07-23T10:48:00.000-07:00

A full account of my own rituals and their history could be a tome in themselves and it's a little daunting to try to share just enough to fit into an email. I'll limit myself to the present and near present, skip a lot of detail and going into why's and wherefore's. You'll see that for me healthy living includes paying attention to relationships.

This morning the clock radio went off at 5:30 p.m. tuned to the CBC radio station with some pleasant classical music. As she does every morning, L said sleepily "Hit the button?" Sometimes it's "Eight minutes?" During this time I slowly come to a sense of the day, the temperature, my urge to cozy down or to get up, what it's like outside, where the cats are - which is usually somewhere on the bed on my feet or in the crook of my knee or between us.

A while later in the kitchen I drink as much water as is comfortable and go into the living room, lay on my back and do some core muscle exercises while stretching my hands over my head. My big cat, Socks Bear, who we have taken to calling Kung Fu Panda, has his own rituals that he performs in a dance with L and me in turn. Cats are very addicted to rituals. Since my hands are out there he butts them and I absent mindedly, since I am concentrating on pulling my stomach in or lifting a leg in the air, grab a front paw or a back paw and tug. He loves it and purrs and pulls until I let go, and there is more of that.

I then move to the cushion for some half lotus Zen sitting. This is the one element that has almost always been present for over three decades. At this point my other cat Diva, who we have called ninja kitty for some time, as well as various babyish names, comes over for her turn. Little Bear heads off to some ritual with L that I haven't inquired into. Diva used to be able to climb into my hands and curl up completely inside them. Now she climbs in, pushes them apart and settles with chin hanging over my forearm and a slight purr. I wonder briefly about attachment to the pleasure of this trust as I concentrate on counting my breaths from one to ten, eyes open. The world of sound/sight /touch fills my senses, stray thoughts come for an instant or longer and pass by as I return to my breathing. I am amazed at the fullness of life. L comes in for her own meditation and then goes in the other room to turn on the TV for the news. I switch to chakra scanning which shuts out the announcer. As I finish - and Diva knows how long it usually is and will be unbearably cute if I meditate too much longer, doing things like standing up, looking me in the eyes and putting a soft paw on my mouth - I lift her to my shoulders and begin to stand. Socks comes over with a mew, and I pick him up in my arms then proceed to do a Zen one step per breath walk into the kitchen with the two of them. He jumps down to see if L will put her breakfast plate down for him and Diva stays on my shoulders fascinated by things I do in the kitchen. Finally I cut up a few green beans I keep in the fridge and bend down so she can jump off then give them to her as a pre-breakfast snack.

L usually leaves 10 or 15 minutes before me and I have insisted on a ritual good-bye kiss so she calls and I come to the door. We exchange a few sentences, often about logistics. Today it's about the rain and how wet it is.

The meditation awareness comes back to me during the day and often I tune to my breathing and notice the widening of awareness and relaxation it brings.

~anonymous

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Centered, Grounded in Purpose and Possibility, Limber and Healthy

2008-07-17T09:37:00.000-07:00

My morning ritual:

Before I'm awake enough to talk myself out of it, I do the 5 Tibetan rites. 20 minutes of mediation follow and then, as I take a shower, I say a multi-part affirmation that I began doing in 1986.

The affirmation was really my first experience of meaningful ritual. It grew out of a workshop called The Wall that was offered through Context Trainings, a cousin to Landmark's Forum. I have no idea what prompted me to begin saying my "definition of success" to myself every morning but I did. Through the years, I have added other elements, including a "stand" (I am Reflecting Pool: nurturing wholeness, creating space for limitless learning, nourishing through purpose) and a question (How am I a spark to grow love's capacity in myself, others and the whole? and its recent partner question: How can we call into being our collective soul so that our many storied world can find its way and each of us our roles in it?).

I added the meditation and Tibetan Rites in 2000 following attending Nine Gates Mystery School.

I believe the meditation centers me and the affirmations ground me in my sense of purpose and possibility. The Rites keep me limber and feeling physically healthy.

Anyway, it is a great way to start the day and I can feel it when I don't take the time in the morning.

Peggy Holman
Open Circle Company

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Family Rituals Creating a Physical and Emotional Glow

2008-07-17T09:25:00.000-07:00

Funny you should ask. This has been a big new (or lots of little new) bit in my life. I have started to meditate 20 minutes every morning. I have dance 1x/week and yoga 1x/week plus I'm wearing a pedometer to help me raise my awareness of my activity level with a goal of 10,000 steps a day. This means at least one walk a day or a number of shorter ones. Good for spring weather.

To engage the whole family in better awareness and care of our bodies, I have used the game-generation approach and we have a Wii Fit board which engages with quite a bit of hilarity, a little competitiveness (I am the mother of two boys, remember, one of whom is a gamer who does not leave his chair.) For the last week every evening before dinner we play together. It has created both a physical and emotional glow.

ALl these things help me separate a bit from my work - so much less blogging and blog reading. It is interesting to see the teeter totter of our life's rhythms.

Nancy White
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Sometimes Rituals Turn up. Sometimes They Vanish.

2008-07-09T09:53:00.000-07:00

Rituals. Mmh. At certain times in my life, certain rituals turn up. Like meditation in the morning. Sometimes they vanish again. Partly because of a lack of discipline on my part. Partly because of completely mysterious reasons.

Right now, living the pretty scheduled life of a working father, my rituals are (randomly):

Deep muscular core workout every Tuesday evening
Anusara-Yoga at Sunday nights
Singing a good night song to my son three times a week
Talking my son to sleep. A little ritual I created when Finn couldn't find the gateway to the causal on his own. It's partly progressive muscle relaxation combined with a form of prayer. I always let him decide whether he wants to fall asleep alone or if I should guide him. Finn is 4.5 years old.
Group meditation (1 hour) and energy work every Thursday night
Trying hard to drink at least 2 liters of water every day and mostly succeeding
A cup of strong black coffee in the morning
Sensual love including oil-massage as regular as possible
Sitting in a café drinking latte machiato and reading the paper on lonely Sunday mornings

That's it for now. My regular patterns. Rituals in the broad sense. Nonetheless..

Jan Koch
jankoch.email@gmail.com

Tea With My Son When He Gets Home

2008-07-09T09:43:00.000-07:00

I have been so busy lately that I've dropped many of my healthy rituals. Not a good time for that!! I've even picked up some unhealthy ones recently (playing that colored lines game too often). It's incredible how tenuous our healthy habits sometimes are. A very good lesson for me, though. I try to "have it all together" all the time, and I need to allow myself to sometimes NOT!
I am also trying to show this part to others more regularly, rather than hide behind the "got it all together" and "doesn't get perturbed" masks.

But in this last week of school this quarter I have been turning back toward the healthy ones more. One that I have never dropped is praying before dinner. We go around the table and say what we are thankful for at that moment. It is a great way to slow down, and approach the meal with more presence, intention, and gratitude.

Another ritual is having oolong tea with my son when he gets home from school in the afternoon. It is a nice way to relax and be present together. We also read together most evenings before bed. This is probably one of my favorite rituals. We are currently reading the Chronicles of Narnia together. We both enjoy fantasy stories, and simply lying in bed together at the end of the day before going to sleep.

I have also been playing squash once a week with someone who is right at my level. We have a real good battle with each other!! I push myself very hard, and have a lot of fun in the process. This is my only regular exercise at the moment, but it's nice to have a regular time to meet with someone else to keep me engaged with it.

Rituals that I am currently interested in including more in my life are: coloring and drawing, recording and contemplating my night-time dreams, sitting meditation, playing piano, and creative visualization.

Michael Byrne
Creating Vitality

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What's Most Needed that I'm Most Ready to Do?

2008-07-09T09:34:00.000-07:00

not sure i have any rituals anymore. i meditate on el trains and airplanes. i clear the email inbox once a month or so, if i'm lucky. i keep working on the house, picking my way along rather than pushing for a schedule. i do open space when people ask. i'm slowly reforming my late-night habits so that i get more cozy time with jill in the evenings. i've volunteered as the steward of a piece of riverside nature trail behind our house, so i am thinking about making trash pickup while walking that space a new sort of ritual, i guess. that will be weather dependent. that's sort of how more and more is happening around here, based on the weather, inside and outside. maybe it's ritual giving way to being in it all the time and just doing the thing that i can, whatever i can, os, email, community, carpentry, food, laundry or whatever that is most in need of doing and that i am most ready to do. it's either brilliant or i'm full of it. flip a coin!

Michael

A Beautiful, Gentle Place

2008-07-07T21:31:00.000-07:00

I'm afraid I'm not very disciplined, so rituals in my life are driven mostly by challenging circumstances. There was a time some years ago, for example, when I was caught up in a great deal of emotional turbulence around departing relationships. After talking with a psychic, I learned every night before sleep to open myself entirely to the universe and RECEIVE. The energy would flow in and even on the darkest days supported me. I do walk labyrinths from time to time as a way of clearing away the mind debris, often when a decision needs to be made. I have one near my home. It's behind a church in a sheltered area next to a daycare center. The path is lined with shells and bits of colored glass. There is a fir tree growing up at one place in the path! A beautiful, gentle place.

Dan Oestreich
Unfolding Leadership

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Zen Meditation and Residing with Juicy Emotional States

2008-07-07T21:26:00.000-07:00

As for me, one ritual (activity?) that I've been practicing pretty regularly for the past 1,5 years is at least 30 minutes of zen meditation (as taught at the Zen Center of San Diego) twice a day.

Even if I'm not mindful the whole rest of the day, this regular meditation helps me stay at least a wee bit more in touch with myself and be in touch with myself at least a wee bit more when irritation or anger comes on. Meditation has become a friend. How did I live without it all these years?! And I just love that the explicit invitation in the larger practice of zen is not to stuff the anger or other juicy emotional states but to just physically reside in them!

Anonymous

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Nourishment Cleanse and Practices of Now

2008-07-06T22:08:00.000-07:00

There is one ritual that I have for spring and fall – a nourishment cleanse – around the book “If Buddha came to dinner” – it’s a month long attention to eating close to the earth.

I’m beginning another practice process later this month to help me come deeper into the now. It comes from Michael Brown and his book, “the presence process” – it’s an 11 week program which includes 2 -15 minute sessions of conscious breathing every day. I wonder what I will learn and what my practices of the now will be after going through… how will it be in my every day?

I also try every day to get out into nature in some way. The dogs always help with that too. And it feels more important than ever to get my kids there (for me and them).

Teresa Posakony

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Running and Loving

2008-07-06T13:01:00.000-07:00

I run in the woods with my sweet dog Lucy. Usually at some point during the run I am so overwhelmed by love for her that I stop and hug and kiss her.

Kate Dugas
Change Everything

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Beauty Reminds Me To Be Grateful

2008-07-06T12:54:00.000-07:00

My current “ritual” is a beginning practice of gratitude. For the last several weeks I’ve just been using beauty to remind myself to be grateful. Sometimes it is the light out the window, or a quick view of a mountain, or some sprouts coming up in the garden… but I’m taking a moment (when I remember – which has been easier than I imagined) to NOTICE the beauty and to NOTICE a feeling of gratitude. I start with being grateful for being able to appreciate beauty – and then move to something else if I can find it. I take a moment to pause, to appreciate and then “life” resumes again. One thing I notice is that these “moments” seem to be getting more frequent. Maybe it is spring coming … or maybe it is that my noticing has changed.

Anonymous

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A Beauty Walk Each Morning

2008-07-06T12:35:00.000-07:00

I’ve been meeting once a week with a small group of friends as we are all wanting to find more balance in our lives and figure we can support each other in doing so. Each week we commit to one thing that will make a difference for us in the coming week.

Each week so far I have committed to the same thing, as I want to really embed it in my body and psyche as an unbreakable habit. Here’s what it is:

I commit to taking a beauty walk each morning, no matter how short, and most importantly I do NOT open ANY email, or even my computer, in the morning until I have at least stepped outside and taken several breaths of fresh air. That’s the bare minimum, but more usually it is a half hour to an hour and a half walk where I notice all the beauty around me and greet it with gratitude and awe.

Amy Lenzo
Beauty Dialogues
Photo by Amy

Wood Splitting

2008-07-06T12:29:00.000-07:00

My ritual ... wood splitting. ;-)
Two or three times a week.
See the attached photos of me
performing my ritual.

Mark Brady
The Committed Parent

A 3 Second Ritual

2008-07-06T12:23:00.000-07:00

A 3 sec. ritual...
I probably started this about 10 years ago, but the way time flies, swoops and bends it might have been more or less.
In my kitchen at home during the first sip of coffee or tea in the morning and often then the first sip sip of a cold beer in the PM I will “notice” what my eyes are resting on (or I will look at something intentionally) and bless/thank that object and all it’s touched.

Christian Swenson
Human Jazz

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Ritual as a General Way of Life

2008-07-06T12:11:00.000-07:00

In the broadest sense, I see each day and each waking moment as a Ritual - an opportunity to ‘practice the presence’ (allowing spirit to bless each interaction - whether this be between humans or between trees, animals, rocks, angels or any other manifestation of the One Life).

For me, each day upon waking I attempt to remember who I am and where I am and what opportunity awaits me during the new day. I always begin with a cup of hot water and 30 minutes of meditation before heading out on an 8-mile neighborhood run (on weekends year-round I run the local Issaquah Alps or the Cascades in the summer months for 3-4 hours to commune with nature). I’m then ready to open emails and have client meetings or go volunteer my time. Whenever I can, I stop and give thanks during the day for the gifts of life and ask that I be shown where I can be of most service and where my next classroom for personal growth is happening.

Although ritual is a form that brings certain qualities and blessings into a focus, it is now more a general way of life. That’s all for now.

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Exercise Nourishes My Mind, Body and Soul

2008-07-06T12:02:00.000-07:00

The ritual that comes to mind most quickly is exercise. I truly believe that regular vigorous exercise nourishes my mind, body and soul. Not only is it wonderful for my body, but it provides me with a mind space that is very hard to find in an otherwise very busy life. The time I spend in the gym is sacrosanct. I place a very high priority on it. It gives me time for myself. It gives me time to think and mull things over when my mind is not distracted by every day stresses. Every day when I leave the gym, I feel ready to deal with all those stresses much more effectively. Exercise also lets me set goals, challenge myself and see progress in a very distinct way. All in all, it's a very important part of my life and writing this down has made me even more aware of that fact. Thanks for making me think about it!

Charles

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Invitation to Share Your Rituals

2008-06-24T10:03:00.000-07:00

Dear friends,

At this moment I'm sitting in one of my favorite Seattle coffee shops, my bagel finished, hot tea still at my side. It's a windy and cloudy day here... a perfect opportunity to snuggle up and write to you! I hope this first day of June (or whenever you happen to read this) finds you well with a smile resting gently between your ears!

I'm writing to invite you to share with me a little sliver of your life. Lately I've been thinking about rituals. More specifically, I'm curious about rituals that encourage healthy living - rituals that nourish our bodies, minds, hearts, souls and relationships. I would like to have more of these rituals in my life and so I'm turning to you to learn from you.

Are there any activities, behaviors or ceremonies that you perform regularly?

Perhaps you say a prayer before eating, go to the gym 2 days a week, meditate in the mornings before you begin your day, enjoy a day of silence once a month, eat only raw foods on a certain day, wash the dog with your child every Sunday, have a family meeting, take yourself out on a date, attend a religious service, take a deep breath before getting out of the car, the list could go on and on.... that's where I want your help!

I consider a ritual for healthy living to be an activity or behavior that someone performs regularly for the purpose of bringing value to ones well-being. It could really be anything!

If you have a ritual that you perform, be it big or small, I would be so honored if you would share it. You can describe it or tell a story about it. Whatever feels most comfortable to you. I will collect these rituals and once it seems like I'm done hearing from people I'll send out another email, sharing all the rituals I have received so that you can benefit from each other's rituals for healthy living.

Thank you so much for your participation (which includes just reading this email). And please feel free to forward this message onto others whom you think have a ritual to share. Rituals can be sent to me at openingspace@gmail.com

With love and gratitude,
Ashley

Add Your Pictures to the Sidebar

2008-06-07T11:36:00.000-07:00

The 5 pictures that appear at the top right side of the website are automatically generated from a list of pictures that have been tagged "healthylivingrituals." You can add your pictures to this group.

You must be a member of flickr.com to participate.

Find any pictures that you consider to be related to "Rituals for Healthy Living." You get to decide what fits into that category. If it relates to rituals in your life, that counts!
Upload them to flickr.
Make sure they are marked as public.
Add the tag "healthylivingrituals"

That's it. Your pictures should appear on the front page within a day (keep refreshing until you see one of your pictures).

Thank you for helping to add beauty to this site and for sharing your photographic eye!

Submit Your Stories and Rituals

2008-06-06T11:23:00.000-07:00

Please share the rituals that you value in your life, experiences that help keep alive your sense of well-being. You can also share stories about your efforts to adopt a new ritual or the ways you are experimenting with some of the rituals other people have shared here.

Please email your submissions to openingspace@gmail.com. Indicate how you would like to be referenced

Would you like for your name to be posted or be anonymous?
Do you want your first and last name or just first?
Do you want to provide a link to a website of yours or an email address?

If you have a picture to illustrate your offering, include that as well. You may also indicate what categories you feel your ritual belongs to (or you can leave this for me to do!).

Thank you for offering to share your experiences. May we each continue to learn from one another, deepening our experience of being alive.

Ashley